The Perfectionism Trap: Why “Doing It All” Is Stealing Your Joy

Every December, it creeps in. The perfect dinner. The perfect home. The perfect version of yourself. And the quiet panic when you realize you can’t meet all three.

Perfectionism often hides behind competence. You’re the one who gets things done — but you’re also the one lying awake at night, replaying everything that didn’t go perfectly.

That voice in your head that says, If I can just do it all right, maybe I’ll finally relax — that’s not motivation. That’s anxiety.

Through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, you can start noticing the thought loops that drive this pressure. A therapist specializing in anxiety and depression in Prince George can help you separate what’s truly important from what’s just noise.

Here’s What Therapy Can Teach You:

• Perfection isn’t connection. Real warmth lives in the imperfect moments — the messy dinners, the unfinished tasks, the shared laughter after a mistake.

• Perfection isn’t peace. The constant striving keeps you in a cycle of tension and guilt.

• Perfection isn’t necessary. The people who love you want you, not the performance.

Working with an experienced mental health therapist in Prince George BC helps you rewrite the story of “enough.” You’ll learn how to loosen your grip, breathe easier, and build meaning beyond accomplishment.

Because joy doesn’t come from getting it all right — it comes from being fully present in what’s real.

About HML Wellness Solutions

At HML Wellness Solutions, we provide compassionate, evidence-based therapy for adults navigating anxiety, depression, PTSD, chronic stress, and life transitions. Based in Prince George, BC, we offer both in-person and secure online counselling across British Columbia—making therapy accessible no matter where you are.